Top 10 Thing That Will Change While Fostering:
1. Spontaneous adventures (like camping!). With more kids comes the need for planning ahead. All. The. Time. I think I'll just make lunches for all the kids every morning just in case we do decide to hit up the zoo. That way, we'll always be a little bit prepared for a long day out.
2. Traveling. It's not unusual for the boys and I to hop in the car and trek down to Nashville for a weekend. Once we've been placed, there will be no more last minute anything. All travel plans have to be approved by the judge so I'll have to put my planning skills to use in this area.
4. Meal time. Meal time with children is always stressful. I can't remember the last time I sat down to eat while with my kids. I'm lucky if I even have a second to eat their left-overs! The addition of more kids means more prep and more cleaning. Good thing I'm the female Danny Tanner!!
5. Church. Depending on the number of foster children we get, I may or may not be participating in our church service for a while. I have no idea what kind of sleep or behavioral issues these kids may have. I'll be happy to sit in the back with them, but something tells me, that will only happen on the good days. That's if the bio family allows us to take their children to church with us.
6. Sleep. We've been having slumber parties with our little friends and I've been surprised at how well everyone sleeps all in one room. My kids are good at sleeping through noise and chaos, so that's a plus. Still, I'm expecting my nights to become my most productive time for prayer as I will likely be awake dealing with kids. I am totally preparing for the worst.
7. Privacy. Yeah, we're all going to have to shut the bathroom door from now on. ELIJAH!
8. Date nights! Dan and I are actually pretty good about date nights but they are always last minute. We usually text or call 5 different friends around 5pm begging for a few hours to ourselves. This is easy to do with our two boys because they are incredibly social and love having their grown up friends come to play. With the unpredictability of foster children and the importance of consistency, we probably won't have babysitters for quite a while.
9. Dynamics. It's always a bit strange when a new child joins a family. Everyone is excited about them, but it does take some getting used to. I'm curious to see how the ages of our foster girls will effect the way the boys receive them. Introducing a newborn to the boys will certainly be different from them getting a new 3 yr old play mate!
10. Discipline. Dan and I both signed a waver stating we will not spank our foster children (as well as refrain from doing all sorts of other crazy things. we had NO problem signing that paper!). In order to keep things consistent, we are completely getting rid of spankings in our home. I'm not thrilled about this, although I completely agree with why it's important NOT to spank with foster kids in the home. My next fostering post will cover this topic in detail. Coming soon....