Me-"Does Elijah have a baby in his belly?"
Eli- "NOooooooo, Eli not have a baby!"
Me-"Does dada have a baby in his belly?"
Eli- "NOoooooo, dada not have a baby!!"
Me- "Does mama have a baby in her belly??"
Eli- "Uh huh!" or "Yup"
The trick will be helping him understand what is going to happen when the baby comes out. Of course, nothing can really prepare a little person for such a huge change, but I do want to prepare him for what he might hear or see while I am in labor should he be awake. Birthing at home means your kids can be with you, heck, anyone can be with you. It's your house! Depending on the timing of the actual birth, I would LOVE for Elijah to be by my side to welcome his new little brother into this world.
When I was a teenager, I went to a birth with my mom. Her client was giving birth for the fourth or fifth time. All the older kids were there around the bed softly singing "Jesus loves me" as the baby was born. It was amazing.
I am afraid that Eli will be freaked out. The last thing I want is for him to be traumatized by the experience. Timing will be everything. As well, I like to think that his presence will give me the confidence to push through (literally!) instead of loosing my focus.
Sadly, there is very little children's literature on the topic but this is what I have found:
My Brother Jimi-Jazz: A children's book about homebirth told from the perspective of the older sister. It's very pricey and looks kind of new-agey, but the artwork looks beautiful.
Mama When is the Baby Gonna Hatch?: This is an interactive book that allows your child/children to learn more about the actual process of birth. It seems as though each page is blank for them to color. I LOVE the page about midwives and the dot-to-dot umbilical chord activity page.
I've been known to "shake it" and love moving around during labor. The page below does an awesome job explaining why this is totally normal and makes it kind of silly for the kids.
We're having a homebirth!: This is the cheapest option which also seems to be the cheesiest. I don't appreciate some of the terminology. It's kind of dumbed down instead of teaching your child the real words. Still, it takes you through all the preparations and how to help the "mama" while she is in labor.
Within the next couple of weeks, I hope to get one of these books. I'll let you know what I decide and will share my final opinion when it arrives.